You don't choose your values. You rank them.
Most values work hands you a list and asks you to pick five. That is why it rarely changes anything. Misalignment hurts more the higher the neglected value sits, so the useful question is not which values are yours. It is which ones you have quietly placed last.
Notice. Name. Choose.
Three movements, in order. Each one is a practice rather than a personality test, and each has a workbook behind it.
Notice
Find where the friction actually is. Not the values you admire, but the ones you keep overriding, and what that override costs you by Thursday afternoon.
Name
Put language on it. A value you can name in your own words, rather than the dictionary's, is one you can act on when it competes with something louder.
Choose
Decide in real life, at the scale of a week. Small enough to keep, specific enough to notice, repeated long enough to change the shape of things.
The workbooks
Printable PDFs you fill in by hand. Start with the Discovery Workbook to find your ranking, then activate one value at a time.
Start with the free Values Quiz
Thirty-six values, eight season archetypes, and a result that tells you which of your values is currently paying the price. It takes about seven minutes.
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"Every planner I bought asked me to name my values. I'd get to that page and stop."
I'm Dr. Natalie Hines. Two years ago I felt stuck. I had a good job, people I love, and good friends, and something still felt wrong. I was unhappy and I couldn't tell you why.
I'm a planner girl, so I kept buying planners, and they all start the same way. What are your values? I'd sit there thinking, I don't know. I value what everyone else values. That part is true. They're called values because we all hold them. What I missed is that the season you're in decides which ones matter most right now.
Freedom sat at the top of my list, and I did not feel free. I felt trapped by my circumstances and by my work, and I didn't feel like myself. That gap was the whole problem. My happiness tracked how closely I was living my values, and my unhappiness tracked the distance.
Picking five favorites never worked for me, since I value nearly all of them. Ranking them for the season I'm actually in did. That's what sent me looking for a way to close the gap, and it's what became DesignHer. First you find out what you value right now, then you design your life to line up with it. That's what living your best life means here.
The method draws on established research into how values are structured, and it asks about everyday situations instead of handing you an abstract list, so a real ranking comes out of what you would actually do.
This is for the woman who looks at her life on paper, sees that it's good, and still feels like something is off.
Stay close to the work
A letter when something new is ready, and nothing else.